My parents named me Laurel, after the mountain laurel flower, but I've always gone by Laurie. I feel like I've spent my whole life trying to be what other people would find acceptable, and it hasn't been until recent years that I've thought more about how GOD would like me to be. He wants my heart to be seeking after HIM and not the approval of man. So, this is where I will be working out my thoughts, removing the masks (even my nickname!), being real, and making a FREAK of myself! ha ha Any other Jesus Freaks or just freaks in general or even non-freaky people are welcome to read, discuss, encourage, or be encouraged. Welcome to my brain . . . and my heart. :)
Monday, March 3, 2014
The "Passive" Gossip-er
That was me.
Oh, I'm sure over the years I have talked about people when I shouldn't have. I felt convicted about that early on, and cut way down. Like that makes it better.
But, several years ago, I realized that I was still participating in gossip, even when I wasn't saying a word.
I was listening.
People can't gossip without an audience. The audience is just as guilty.
But I was more than happy to listen to the flapping gums.
I've come to learn that the truth is thus: There's rarely a good reason to discuss with others anything about another person that would be embarrassing to that person for others to know, nor anything that person has told me in confidence. It's not okay . . . whether the person is struggling with something, or had a bad day, or is sinning, or has hurt me, or has said or done something I disagree with. And it certainly isn't okay just because I want it to be okay!
To tell others how someone has hurt me instead of going to that someone? Cowardly.
To tell others about someone's mistakes or embarrassing circumstances? Cruel.
To talk about someone because there's nothing else to talk about? Lame.
To criticize someone behind his/her back? Poison.
And listening to it perpetuates the problem.
Then there's the fine line between gossip and "a prayer request."
I'm not talking about biblical discipline here, which sometimes requires more than one person knowing about a situation, but even that is after a one-on-one conversation.
Gossip can sneak up on me, and when it's over, I realize what hit me and that I didn't have my guard up.
I'm still trying.
And that's the truth. :(